Well friends......it's clearer to me than ever how important this blog really is, after two days of working on it....I lost the entire thing. So here I go.........again.
I'm gonna start with the natural makeup and passions of both male and female. Man was undoubtedly created to thrive off of beauty, power and strength and all that they encompass. Woman were created to embody beauty and all of it's attributes. These are the basics guys....I want to be beautiful, I want you to think I'm beautiful and you want something beautiful....it makes you feel powerful, alive....face it. Now, I don't think these passions in and of themselves are wrong, in fact I think they are good. However, we through perversions have reduced ourselves to the likings of something more barbaric and animalistic in nature. We were created to be passionate and beautiful creatures.....yet sadly........we have lost our glory, our power and our majesty....along side our hearts.
Ladies you were created to be beauties, beauties of the most eminent design containing a power, an enrapturing, captivating glory. Gentleman, you were created to be powerful, majestic creatures full of a strength and might that no being had ever encompassed, apart from your Maker.
Perversion is a peculiar word, we generally use it to describe someone that sexuality lacks morality. Truthfully though, we all pervert something. Perversion defines itself as *To turn away from what is right, proper or good *To put to wrong or improper use* To distort.
We all were created with a longing and a desire for intimacy...relationally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Most of ones life's endeavours are all in the pursuit of this intimacy, even if they themselves aren't aware of it . Babies are sustained by this intimacy...a mothers nursing bosom...a coddling father.....the smell of their parents......the comfort of their voice. Children thrive on this intimacy from their parents....their love, affections and affirmations. Adults long for the intimacy of their peers, parents, children and that of their mate...emotionally, mentally and of physical proportions, sexually. It's in this place that we experience a true complete and total surrender and vulnerability. This friends is the inherent nature of every man and woman alike.....to know and be known, to experience pleasure, power and intimacy.
This intimacy I am speaking of should begin to be learned in our homes, in our family's, in our hearts. Our masculine and feminine natures should be validated, affirmed, owned and cherished as children. This sort of healthy path of growth and develop has become a scarcity today, perhaps even a novelty. Children today are "raised" in homes that are fatherless, motherless, laden with addictions and abuses of multiple types. It's no wonder that we look around today at our society, our culture and our churches and here we are broken, addicted, mis and even unidentified. Friends, never underestimate the power of a family........ It's a fathers role to masculinate his sons, not a mother's. Femininity does not beget masculinity and never will. In families where young boys have experienced direct abuse or in the form of neglect from their fathers.....they will struggle with their masculine identities. It can show up in various forms, whether it be repeating the same cycle of abuse and neglect, or through an inability to make commitments, fear, addictions, passivity, a victim mentality......and the list goes on and on and on....including the addiction to pornography.
Pornography defines itself as the creative activity (films, photography,writing.etc..) that contain no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desire. Hmmmnnn, that definition strikes me right down to my core with a deep grief....how debasing, how unnatural...to separate relationship and intimacy from this sexual desire. Lets think on this for a minute......what does a man or woman for that matter..(which in Part Two I will be discussing the feminine side of things in depth) experience when they look at pornography.....could it be pleasure, power, and intimacy...yes it could and it is. Ironically, the very thing we are created to experience have been distorted through perversion and a handicap in the ability to engage in true intimacy. Friends, this is tragic. Amidst a world of longing companions, neglected lovers and lonely mates we are wasting ourselves on the make-believe. WHY?!?
I'll tell you why......because something has gone wrong in the essence of our beings...our hearts have been camouflaged into our flesh, right down to the unidentifiable. Intimacy is intense people....it's almost like a mirror.....a truly intimate moment can define and change your life forever. I'll quickly share with you that the one most important, life changing and intimate moment of my life was when I met my Maker.....that moment changed my life forever along with my nature, my heart and my passion. With that said, I want you to think about the power of this intimacy in relationship. I'll also share with you that my husband has the ability to look into my eyes with such an intimacy that is makes me feel nervous, scared, vulnerable, insecure and yet loved in a way that I can not explain. I feel seen and known and that friends as much as we desire it, can be overwhelming...... even identifying. So why at our heart's deepest need and longing....would we perhaps hold back, turn away from and possibly reject the very thing we need, for the make-believe? Perhaps it is because it is just that...it is the illusion of intimacy...the illusions of power apart from the vulnerability, apart from the commitment. Is it easier to pretend than to live....is it easier to be in a fantasy than real life? Absolutely, it is....but what's the price, what's the trade, what's the effect on LIFE? What do we lose and what are we afraid of ?..........Stay tuned for Part Two, the best is yet to come....along with some HOPE.
Waiting on part 2! :)
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